The Belonging Wound

May 14, 2025

If you carry a belonging wound, you’ll do almost anything to avoid the ache of exclusion. You’ll twist yourself into shapes, overextend, overgive—especially to those who keep you at arm’s length. The more someone pushes you away, the harder you try. That’s how deep the pain runs. That’s how badly the soul wants to be chosen.

But awareness changes everything.

When you begin to heal—when you truly look at the imbalance—you realize something brutal and liberating: many of the places you gave your energy to weren’t worthy of your presence. You start to notice how much of your worth was spent trying to earn crumbs of connection.

It’s not about the other person. It never was.

It’s about understanding the wound that made you believe you had to work for belonging in the first place.

Do the shadow work. You’ll see. And once you do, you won’t chase anymore. You’ll choose.

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