Disconnected by Design: Are We Losing Each Other in a Digital Age?

March 16, 2025

I’m just thinking out loud here. I don’t have the answer, but I can’t help but wonder—has technology, in all its efficiency, created a deeper divide between genders, values, and human connection itself?

Generations ago, relationships may have been guided by moral principles, though not necessarily in a healthier way. Divorce wasn’t always an option, so people stayed. Today, relationships seem more self-centered—if someone doesn’t fit our ideal, they’re simply not good enough. The focus has shifted from us to me, from compromise to personal fulfillment.

Technology plays a role. The phone isn’t just a phone anymore—it’s a lifeline, a distraction, a never-ending source of external validation. The more we lean on it, the less we rely on human presence. Efficiency breeds complacency. And in communities less consumed by tech—think about places like Hawaii—there’s still an old-school, face-to-face authenticity that feels increasingly rare.

Then there’s the broader societal shift. Topics like pro-choice, LGBTQ rights, and gender roles used to be deeply tied to values, but are they still? Shows like Married at First Sight or Love is Blind (yes, I watch them for the psychological insights) highlight a strange disconnect—some men seem emotionally detached from these issues, while more women expect them to care. Are we truly engaging with each other’s beliefs, or just going through the motions?

Maybe this is just the natural evolution of our species. Or maybe we’re being shown, in real time, just how fragmented we’ve become.

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