The Guilt Default

May 26, 2025

Guilt has been my albatross.

For as long as I can remember, it showed up uninvited—whenever someone was upset, disappointed, or simply didn’t approve. It didn’t matter if I had done something wrong. Guilt didn’t wait for truth or context. It just moved in, as if it owned the place.

But as I’ve come to understand myself more, something shifted: I don’t owe guilt the same attention I used to give it.

The question in this image is a powerful checkpoint:

“Am I feeling guilty because I made a mistake—or because I’ve been conditioned to feel guilty whenever someone disapproves of me?”

It’s not an easy question. Especially when guilt has been your default setting for decades. But awareness is a form of rebellion. And every time I pause to ask myself why I feel guilty, I loosen the grip it has on me.

If guilt is your automatic response—start questioning it. You might just find freedom on the other side.

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