The Rare Strength of Owning Our Mistakes

February 5, 2025

Accountability is rare. I’ve come to realize that most people will do anything to avoid it. They run. They craft narratives that free them from responsibility. They convince themselves that the blame lies elsewhere, that they have nothing to apologize for.

But the truth is, it takes immense strength to acknowledge wrongdoing, to own the harm we’ve caused, and to apologize—especially when it comes long after the fact. It requires bravery to face the discomfort of knowing we’ve hurt someone. And yet, these are the qualities of truly strong human beings.

Unfortunately, they are few and far between. Even in leadership, where accountability should set the standard, it’s often absent. Instead, we see deflection, gaslighting, and a refusal to acknowledge the damage done.

We’re human. We need connection. But to abuse that connection—whether through manipulation, dishonesty, or avoidance—should be seen for what it is: deeply harmful. Society calls many things a crime, but the emotional wounds we inflict on each other are often ignored.

I have less faith in humanity than I once did. But I still have hope. Hope that there are people out there willing to show up, to listen, to take responsibility. These people exist, and they are worth more than gold. I hope to meet one someday.

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