Trauma survivors often overshare, not because they want attention, but because they crave understanding. They long for a connection that makes their pain feel seen, heard, and validated. It’s a heartbreaking cycle—one fueled by the desire to believe in the goodness of others, often romanticizing people or interactions based on fleeting moments of kindness.
Imagine a wounded child wandering from person to person, hoping someone will finally understand. That’s what it feels like for many trauma survivors. They believe in the goodness of humanity, sometimes so deeply that it blinds them to reality—until reality punches back. Not everyone has tapped into the kindness buried within them, and the realization of this can be excruciating.
What if we could shift the narrative? Instead of judging someone for oversharing or labeling them as “too much,” what if we paused to recognize their vulnerability? What if we asked ourselves, “Why am I the recipient of this?” Maybe they don’t need a solution—maybe they just need someone to hold space for them, to acknowledge their pain or their joy, even for a moment.
We’re quick to judge, caught up in labels and assumptions inherited from a society that prizes conformity. But the truth is, the people who seem “weird” or “different” often have the kindest, most genuine hearts. They are non-conformists because life has shaped them that way. They’ve survived punches from the world that many of us can’t imagine.
So, let’s pause before we hurt them with our judgments. Maybe all they need is five minutes of your kindness. And maybe, in that moment, you’ll learn more about compassion than you ever thought possible.
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