If there’s one thing my healing journey has made crystal clear, it’s that being real is far more important to me than being nice. I’ve spent too long trying to fit into the mold of what others expected, watering down my truth for the sake of maintaining peace or avoiding discomfort. But peace built on dishonesty isn’t peace at all, and it costs far more than it’s worth.
I’ve come to realize that everyone is on their own journey, and how others perceive me holds no weight. As long as I remain real, whatever happens—good or bad—at least I know it comes from an authentic place. This shift in perspective has changed everything for me. My circle is small, and it’s getting smaller. But I’m happier for it. The people who are still around are the ones I trust to be real with me. Whether I’m right or wrong, out of line, or needing a reality check, they’ll tell me, and that’s exactly what I want in the people closest to me.
Looking back, I see how much of my power I gave away. I allowed myself to believe in people, or see them through the lens I wanted to see them through, instead of accepting them for who they truly were. That’s on me. There was no contract or agreement between us on how to perceive each other. I realize now that I contributed to the pain I felt by not holding onto my truth as tightly as I should have.
I’m sharing this because I know others out there, like myself, are on long, painful journeys. The pain isn’t just in recognizing what others have done, but in seeing the part you played. It’s in accepting the power you’ve handed over, believing all the right words, and trusting in people who didn’t deserve that level of trust. But there’s power in that realization too. And for those who try to cling to the opinions of others to shape their view of me—you’re cowards. If one person’s opinion of me becomes yours, you’re missing out on something deeper and more real, but that’s not my problem anymore. I’m grateful, though, because I can now see how much time I’ve saved by not caring.
From here on out, I’m going to keep it real. You’re going to get the truth from me, and it’s going to be raw. I’ll do my best to deliver it in the best way possible, but expect nothing less than the truth. I’m not here to live for niceties. I’m a good soul, and being nice is not a requirement for that.
This is me. Real. Stronger. Owning my power.
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