by samfrida | Apr 7, 2026 | Blog
Freedom is not, as I once thought, the ability to go anywhere. It is the hard-won permission to stop going somewhere. Cory Allen’s line stopped me cold: some things deserve your absence, not your energy. There is a version of me that would have read that and...
by samfrida | Apr 7, 2026 | Blog
There’s a particular kind of person who can cite six research papers on emotional intelligence in a single conversation. They know the frameworks. They know the vocabulary. They will absolutely tell you about their reading list. Knowing things in theory and knowing...
by samfrida | Apr 5, 2026 | Blog
Most loss has a name. A door that closed. A relationship that ended. A moment you can point to and say: that’s where things changed. This kind of loss doesn’t. Survival doesn’t announce itself as theft. It just asks for your attention today, and then again tomorrow,...
by samfrida | Apr 5, 2026 | Blog
Going to church doesn’t make you a good person. Saying the right things doesn’t make you a good person. Being well-liked doesn’t make you good at your job. These are performances and most people can’t tell the difference. We’ve outsourced our judgment to social proof....
by samfrida | Apr 4, 2026 | Blog
There’s a difference between honest and real. I’ve been sitting with that for a while now. Honest is something you can perform. Real isn’t. We live in a world built for optics. People construct versions of themselves so carefully, so consistently, that after a while...
