by samfrida | Apr 7, 2026 | Blog
Freedom is not, as I once thought, the ability to go anywhere. It is the hard-won permission to stop going somewhere. Cory Allen’s line stopped me cold: some things deserve your absence, not your energy. There is a version of me that would have read that and...
by samfrida | Apr 7, 2026 | Blog
There’s a particular kind of person who can cite six research papers on emotional intelligence in a single conversation. They know the frameworks. They know the vocabulary. They will absolutely tell you about their reading list. Knowing things in theory and knowing...
by samfrida | Apr 5, 2026 | Blog
Most loss has a name. A door that closed. A relationship that ended. A moment you can point to and say: that’s where things changed. This kind of loss doesn’t. Survival doesn’t announce itself as theft. It just asks for your attention today, and then again tomorrow,...
by samfrida | Apr 5, 2026 | Blog
Going to church doesn’t make you a good person. Saying the right things doesn’t make you a good person. Being well-liked doesn’t make you good at your job. These are performances and most people can’t tell the difference. We’ve outsourced our judgment to social proof....
by samfrida | Apr 4, 2026 | Blog
There’s a difference between honest and real. I’ve been sitting with that for a while now. Honest is something you can perform. Real isn’t. We live in a world built for optics. People construct versions of themselves so carefully, so consistently, that after a while...
by samfrida | Apr 1, 2026 | Blog
There is a version of our lives we show the world, and a version we confess only to a search bar at midnight. The gap between those two things is where Google Trends lives. And what it is showing us right now, in early 2026, is quietly devastating.Searches for “feel...
