by samfrida | Jul 11, 2025 | Blog
I come from an Asian culture where performance is in the DNA. Where saving face is second nature. Where being liked and respected isn’t just desired—it’s expected, even if it means suppressing your truth. We become polished, practiced, polite. And somewhere along the...
by samfrida | Jul 11, 2025 | Blog
There comes a moment—sometimes gentle, sometimes shattering—when your soul can no longer tolerate the performance. You’ve worn the masks, tried to fit, adapted out of survival, out of a need to belong, to be enough, to matter. But adapting isn’t the same as becoming....
by samfrida | Jul 10, 2025 | Blog
Hawai‘i feels like home—not because of luaus or the postcard sunsets, though I treasure both—but because of the people. The real aloha. The way locals call a cashier “auntie” or “uncle” at the market, with love and deep-rooted respect. That small gesture says...
by samfrida | Jul 10, 2025 | Blog
This song is more than lyrics—it’s a lifeline. It puts into words the quiet war so many of us fight within: the battle between our inner critic and our inner truth. “You Say” by Lauren Daigle reminds us that even when we feel numb, weak, or lost, we are still deeply...
by samfrida | Jul 9, 2025 | Blog
Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re bridges—back to yourself. For someone who grew up with none, building even one feels like rebellion. At first, it stings. Guilt creeps in. You wonder if you’re being selfish, dramatic, or too much. But the truth is: a boundary is not a...
by samfrida | Jul 6, 2025 | Blog
If telling the truth gets you silence… If telling the truth gets you labeled as unwell.. If telling the truth makes someone more concerned with how they’re perceived than what’s real… You’re not in a safe space. You’re in the presence of someone who isn’t capable of...