The Exhausting Performance of Being Fine

The Exhausting Performance of Being Fine

Most of us have mastered the answer to “How are you?” Good. Busy. Can’t complain. We deliver it smoothly, automatically, before the question has even finished landing. And the person asking exhales, relieved they don’t have to hold anything heavy today.We’ve built an...
Love Is Not a Calendar Event

Love Is Not a Calendar Event

February 14th. The day we’ve collectively agreed is the day to prove we love someone. But have you ever stopped to think about how we got here? Valentine’s Day traces back to one or more early Christian martyrs named Valentine. The romantic connection didn’t really...
A Different Kind of Fullness

A Different Kind of Fullness

There’s a video by Lovette Jallow that I keep thinking about. It’s about asexuality, but not in the clinical, checkbox way the topic is so often handled. Instead, it opens with an invitation to consider that what we’ve been taught to see as absence might actually be...
The T-Junction

The T-Junction

Every generation arrives at a fork in the road. A moment where the path splits, and what we choose reveals who we really are.Give ten people a hammer. Some will build a house. Others will tear one down. Give ten people money, power, influence, and the same split...
The Tax on Seeing Patterns

The Tax on Seeing Patterns

You saw it coming. Not because you’re psychic. Not because you’re smarter than anyone else in the room. But because you noticed what nobody wanted to notice. The misalignment between what was being said and what was being done. The slow drift. The quiet rot behind the...