SAM Frida

There’s a difference between being hurt by someone and being hurt through someone. This quote by Don Miguel Ruiz hits a tender truth: most of the time, it’s not what’s being said that causes pain—it’s what it awakens in us. Unhealed wounds, buried emotions, things we...

We often talk about cutting off toxic people—but rarely do we include family, extended and all, in that equation. Why? Because from the moment we’re born, we absorb the dynamics we’re born into as “normal.” We internalize the blueprint without questioning it. It’s...

Being near someone doesn’t mean you matter to them. Proximity can be accidental, habitual, or even convenient—but priority is deliberate. It’s in the seat saved, the plan made with you in mind, the intention behind the presence. Too often, we confuse access for value,...

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Cassie Ventura inspires me in a way I couldn’t have grasped in an earlier version of myself. Back then, I would have read the news and felt heartbreak, deep compassion for what she endured. And while that hasn’t changed, something else has grown stronger—respect....

If you carry a belonging wound, you’ll do almost anything to avoid the ache of exclusion. You’ll twist yourself into shapes, overextend, overgive—especially to those who keep you at arm’s length. The more someone pushes you away, the harder you try. That’s how deep...

What if conflict isn’t personal? I attended a session with Vienna Pharaon, author of The Origins of You, and one takeaway hit hard: conflict is often just two nervous systems trying to protect their hosts. That changes everything. Instead of seeing someone as the...